Assalamu alaikum bhaira, apnara kemon achen? Ami Dinajpur theke likchi, ektu boro ekta problem niye apnader sathe share korte chai. Ami ekhon 27 bochor boyosh, ekta private company te job kori Dhaka te. Alhamdulillah income mota muti thik ache, kintu family theke biye niye pressure ta ebar really serious hoye gese. Ma baba phone korle ekhon shudhu ekta topic - "toke biye korte hobe, ar deri kora jabe na." Ami nijeo chai settle hote, kintu confused achi ki bhabe proceed korbo.
Amader society te dekhi dui dharar biye hoy - arranged marriage ar love marriage. Amar kono girlfriend nai, office e kono meye ke pasand o kori na emon bhabe. Tai family bolche je tara patro dekhe dibe. Kintu bhai, ami ektu uncomfortable feel kori ei system e. Mane, ek din dekha holo, koyek din kotha bola holo, ar tar por biye? Eto kom somoy e ki actually kono manush ke bujha jay? Abar ulto dike dekhi, amar onek bondhu der love marriage koreche, tara o ekhon problem e ache - "biye r por manush ta palte gese" type kotha shuni. Tai actually ki correct approach ami dhortei parchi na.
Ar ekta tension ache amr. Ami Dinajpur er chele, kintu job Dhaka te. Amr family chai je meye ta jeno Dinajpur ba nearby kono jaygay theke hoy, tader culture bujhe. Kintu ami Dhaka te thaki, ekhane settle hobo inshallah, tai Dhaka r meye hole adjust ta easy hobe na ki? Ei niye ma baba r sathe ektu mismatch ache. Tara bolche culture match kora dorkar, ami bolchi practical adjustment o important. Dui dike ri logic ache, kintu decision ta to ekta nite hobe.
Arekta bishoy holo money matters. Biye te koto khoroch hobe, mehr koto dite hobe, meye r family r expectation ki hobe - ei shob niye khub stress feel kori. Amar savings ache kisu, kintu Dhaka te flat bhara, office expense, family ke support - shob milie ekta biye r full khoroch ekbare cover kora ektu tight hobe. Tai ki ami aro 1-2 bochor wait korbo naki ekhon start korbo? Boyosh to barche, 30 perie gele aro kothin hoye jabe shunchi.
Bhaira, apnader moddhe jara already married ba jara ei phase perie esecho, ektu poramorsho diben please. Arranged naki love - konta better hoyeche apnader experience e? Family r choice naki nijer priority - kivabe balance korlen? Ar koto din chena jana korar por biye r decision neya uchit? Ami shotti confused, kono rokom guidance pele khub upokrito hobo. Dhonnobad shobai ke, Allah apnader mongol korun. 🤲
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